Why It’s Okay to Not Be Okay: Tips for Telling Someone You’re Struggling

We all have times when we’re not okay, but it can be hard to admit it to ourselves, let alone to someone else. However, telling someone you trust that you’re struggling can be a powerful first step towards healing and growth. In this article, we’ll explore how to tell someone you’re not okay and why it’s important for your mental health. Plus, we’ll share some recent research on how talking to someone you trust can be helpful.

Choosing Someone You Trust

When it comes to opening up about your struggles, it’s important to choose someone you trust. This could be a close friend, family member, partner, or therapist. The key is to find someone who will listen without judgment and offer support.

If you’re not sure who to talk to, think about who has been there for you in the past or who you feel comfortable with. You can also look for support groups in your community or consider reaching out to a professional therapist.

Finding the Right Time and Place

Once you’ve identified someone you trust, it’s important to find the right time and place to have the conversation. You want to choose a time when you won’t be rushed or interrupted and when the other person is likely to be available and focused.

It can also be helpful to choose a place where you feel comfortable and safe. This could be a quiet park, a cozy coffee shop, or your own home. The goal is to create a supportive environment where you can be open and honest.

Being Honest and Direct

When it’s time to have the conversation, it’s important to be honest and direct about how you’re feeling. You might start by saying something like, “I’ve been struggling lately and I could really use your support.” It can be helpful to give specific examples of what you’re going through and how it’s impacting you.

Remember that it’s okay to ask for what you need. Whether it’s a listening ear, a hug, or some practical support, be clear about what would be helpful for you. The other person may not have all the answers, but they can offer emotional support and validation.

Why Talking to Someone You Trust Can Be Helpful

Research has shown that talking to someone you trust about your struggles can be incredibly beneficial for your mental health. One study found that social support was a significant predictor of recovery from depression, even when other factors were controlled for (Joiner, 2002).

Another study found that disclosing your emotional experiences to someone you trust can reduce stress and increase feelings of well-being (Pennebaker & Chung, 2011).

By opening up about your struggles, you can gain a new perspective, feel less alone, and access the emotional support you need to heal and grow.

How Mindfully Healing Can Help

If you’re struggling with mental health issues, Mindfully Healing can help. Our therapists specialize in evidence-based modalities like CBT, DBT, ART, hypnotherapy, and EFT. We work with adults, families, adolescents, and couples to help them overcome challenges and find healing.

If you’re ready to take the first step towards healing, call us at (952) 491-9450 or visit our website https://mindfullyhealing.com/clinicians to Find a local therapist. Remember that healing begins with taking that first step and seeking help from someone you trust.


Telling someone you trust that you’re struggling can be scary, but it can also be incredibly helpful for your mental health. By choosing someone you trust, finding the right time and place, and being honest and direct, you can open up a pathway to healing and growth. Remember that it’s okay to not be okay and that seeking help is a sign of strength.

At Mindfully Healing, we’re here to support you on your journey towards healing. Don’t hesitate to reach out and take that first step towards a healthier, happier you.

Find a local therapist at Mindfully Healing or call us at (952) 491-9450 to begin your journey towards healing. Remember, healing begins with taking that first step.


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