The most appealing sexual behaviours revealed by survey of over 2,000 men and women.

Being romantic and affectionate top the list of most appealing sexual behaviours, new research finds.

Even men found kissing and cuddling most appealing in comparison to other ‘kinkier’ activities, the survey of over 2,000 men and women found.

The sample included a wide range of ages and sexual orientations.

Professor Debby Herbenick, the study’s first author, said:

“Contrary to some stereotypes, the most appealing behaviors, even for men, are romantic and affectionate behaviors.

These included kissing more often during sex, cuddling, saying sweet/romantic things during sex, making the room feel romantic in preparation for sex, and so on.”

The survey asked people what sexual behaviours they actually engaged in along with those that were most appealing to them.

Other romantic behaviours people found appealing were watching a romantic movie or giving or receiving a massage before sex.

Many people simply reported that having a little more sex would be appealing to them.

The study’s authors write:

“…one-third of women and nearly one-quarter of men had not engaged in sexual activity with anyone in the last year (consistent with NSSHB data)–and about 1 in 10 partnered Americans considered themselves monogamous but sexless—it is important to acknowledge that sizable proportions of Americans do not engage in partnered sexual activities during certain periods of their lives.”

However, many people surveyed had tried out all sorts of different sexual behaviours in the past, even if they had become more sexually conservative.

The authors write:

“Behaviors that more often occurred in Americans’ more distant pasts included sex in public, tying up, foot/toe sucking or licking, role playing, whipping, sex via video, going to a strip club, having a threesome, having group sex, viewing sexually explicit magazines, and reading books about sex.”

The study was published in the journal PLOS ONE (Herbenick et al., 2017).