Discernment Counseling is a specialized form of counseling designed for couples who are unsure about the future of their relationship and contemplating divorce or separation. It is a short-term and structured therapeutic process that helps couples gain clarity and make informed decisions about the next steps in their relationship. The primary focus of Discernment Counseling is to assist couples in exploring three paths: staying in the relationship as it is, pursuing a divorce or separation, or committing to a focused effort on reconciliation and relationship repair. The goal is to help partners gain a deeper understanding of themselves, their partner, and the patterns and dynamics within their relationship. Unlike traditional couples therapy, Discernment Counseling is not about solving problems or working on relationship issues directly. Instead, it provides a safe and supportive space for couples to examine their concerns, emotions, and motivations. The counselor helps facilitate open and honest conversations, allowing each partner to express their perspectives, desires, and doubts. Discernment Counseling typically involves a combination of individual and joint sessions. In individual sessions, each partner has an opportunity to privately explore their thoughts and feelings. Joint sessions provide a platform for guided conversations where couples engage in structured dialogues facilitated by the counselor. The role of the counselor in Discernment Counseling is to support both partners without taking sides or advocating for a specific outcome. The counselor helps couples navigate the complexities of their emotions and decision-making process while providing guidance, insight, and tools to facilitate productive discussions. Discernment Counseling is time-limited and usually consists of 1-5 sessions. The number of sessions can vary depending on the couple's needs and progress. It is a collaborative effort between the couple and the counselor, with an emphasis on creating a safe and non-judgmental environment for exploration and reflection. The overarching purpose of Discernment Counseling is to provide couples with the clarity and understanding necessary to make a thoughtful and informed decision about the future of their relationship. It helps couples gain insight into themselves, their partner, and their relationship dynamics, empowering them to move forward with confidence, whether that involves continuing the relationship, pursuing separation, or committing to reconciliation efforts.

The client is always in control of the entire ART session, with the therapist guiding the process. Although some traumatic experiences such as rape, combat experiences, or loss of a loved one can be very painful to think about or visualize, the therapy rapidly moves clients beyond the place where they are stuck in these experiences toward growth and positive changes. The process is very straightforward, using relaxing eye movements and a technique called Voluntary Memory/Image Replacement to change the way in which the negative images are stored in the brain. The treatment is grounded in well-established psychotherapy techniques, and the end result is that traumas and difficult life experiences will no longer trigger strong emotions or physical reactions. Importantly, clients do not even have to talk about their traumas or difficult life experiences with the therapist to achieve recovery.